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Meet Nicola Spencer

she/her
Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC)

GET TO KNOW NICOLA

Who She Supports

  • Individuals

  • LGBTQ+

  • Couples

  • Families

  • Youth

  • New Parents

  • Single Parents

Additional Trainings

  • Divorce Ambivalence Training- Ginny Wright

  • Sex Therapy Training- Dr. Julia O'Loughlin at West Coast Centre for Sex Therapy

  • Intensive Course in Emotionally Focused Therapy: Attachment-Based Interventions for Couples in Crisis- Dr. Sue Johnson

  • Couples Therapy Certification- Dr. Alexandra Solomon 

  • Understanding Asexuality and Aromanticism Training- Sarah Doyle, MSW, RSW of Burn Bright Counselling

  • CBT Techniques Training- Jelani Adams, MSW, RSW 

  • Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy for ADHD: Practical Strategies for Clinicians- Unmasking YYJ

  • Ethical Note-Keeping and Documentation in Counselling - Becky Palmer, RCC, within the Business of This Is Why We Practice (not sure if this one matters to clients lol)

Appointment Types

  • In Person in Nanaimo

  • Online across British Columbia

Biography

Hi, I’m Nicola – a couples and relationship-focused counsellor who’s passionate about helping partners reconnect, communicate better, and navigate life’s messy, beautiful moments together. My therapy space is grounded in collaboration, curiosity, and compassion. Whether you’re dating, married, navigating non-monogamy, long-distance, or intentionally child-free – I’m here to support you as a team. Relationships are deeply personal, but they don’t have to be figured out alone. Let’s roll up our sleeves and explore what’s working, what’s not, and what kind of connection you want to build moving forward. In my work with couples, I aim to help you:

● Talk so your partner actually hears [aka – understands] you

● Feel like a real team instead of two opposing forces

● Make the hard conversations a bit easier & more productive

● Imagine new ways to improve your sex life

● Create closeness, even in long-distance relationships

● Explore the complexities of being intentionally child-free

I think of therapy as “work hard, play hard” – with a generous side of empathy, honesty, and a bit of humour. Together, we’ll look at the dynamics that keep you stuck, the strengths that hold you together, and the possibilities waiting to unfold. My goal isn’t to “fix” you or your relationship – it’s to help you co-create a space where both of you can feel seen, supported, and more connected than ever.

READY TO START YOUR JOURNEY?

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